Aristarchus my fellow prisoner greets you. That is the whole introduction, and fellow prisoner is not an honorary title. He is in the cell too. Paul is closing the most demanding letter he ever wrote by naming the people who are with him, and this one gets a single line and no explanation at all.
David stopped there on Sunday for a reason. Aristarchus appears five times in the New Testament and never says a single recorded word. He is at the riot in Ephesus, on the ship to Rome, and here in prison. Every appearance is a hard moment. David called it the ministry of staying, and said his presence is a present.
That is worth holding against how most of us actually help. When somebody tells us something heavy, the pull is toward a solution, a silver lining, or a story of our own, and all three move the moment away from their pain toward something we can manage. Job's friends sat with him seven days and said nothing, and those seven days were the best thing they ever did.
Two things this week, and the second is harder than the first. Pick one person having a difficult month and simply show up, with no advice and nothing to fix. Then go and find your own Aristarchus, and tell one person the real answer to how are you, rather than the summary you have been handing out for months.
Reflect
Who has stayed with you without trying to fix anything? And who is going through something right now where your presence, with no advice attached, would be the whole gift?
Pray
Father, I talk when I should sit still, and I fix when I should stay. Give me the patience to be present with someone this week without needing to solve them. And give me the honesty to let somebody stay with me. Amen.